Ever since my school days, all through my entire life, I have always maintained, “When I can see and feel no differences between a Friday night and a Sunday night, I’ll be enlightened”.
I think that is something most people have in common. One of the exceptions to that, I believe, are the ‘rich and greedy’. They seem to never have enough, so they cannot wait to get back to work to keep making more and more. In my opinion, it’s truly bizarre behavior. The people I hang with are more of the mind-set of ‘The weekend went too fast. I could have used another day (or two, or three)”. I have always thought that in the very beginning when mankind created the calendar, why was it done, five on and two off? It could have been anyway we chose. Why not four on and three off? Three day weekends are great. Most people, insofar as I know, always love a long weekend. I think it was perhaps the bankers and Wall Street that made it five on.
Anyway, the differences with know all too well about those two nights. Friday night is ‘chill out’ while Sunday night is just chilling.
There is no doubt that there is a definite difference in our activities in each of the following days. The difference though, in how much we relish and enjoy, or not, each of the two very different nights, lies in the culprit of our attitude.
I love the saying; “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude”………..Maya Angelou
The obvious conclusion is we will stay stuck with a situation that is not pleasing if we don’t make some kind of a change. So, what’s the choice? Stay stuck and not truly happy?
Attitude! Attitude! Attitude! It’s the very thing that inhibits us in our businesses, personal finances, relationships, and life in general. We think we can or we cannot change ourselves. We think we are going to have a good time or not. We blame others and never ourselves. We think that other person was luckier than us.
We judge everything and then based upon that judgment, Friday nights are way, way better than Sunday nights.
So our job is to constantly examine exactly why we are feeling the way we are, about whatever, or whomever, we are feeling a certain way about. Monday mornings – What an example! Oh those clients, or bosses or co-workers that we have to deal with. How about the mountain of work waiting on your desk? – And all those phone calls?
– Versus –
Oh how I smile come Friday late afternoons. Ahh, the weekend is here.
You want to know something. If that mountain of work wasn’t on your desk, or there were no clients, bosses or co-workers – guess what? You would be unemployed. Then every eve would be a Friday eve. That’s not so good either.
I find what really helped me through the years, was something I read in a book called “Notes to Myself on Becoming a Person” – Hugh Prather
One of the notes read: “Here comes John. He is such a pain in the neck to talk to. Vs Here comes John. Why do I make it such a pain in the neck to talk to him?”
All too often, we create our own unhappiness. The funny thing is, if we look back on our lives, except for the really big events, we truly don’t remember each particular thing that upset us throughout our days. Yet we go through our day letting ourselves be unnecessarily annoyed by one small thing or another.
A great read: Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff … and it’s all small stuff: Simple Ways to Keep the Little Things from Taking Over Your Life (Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff)
By Richard Carlson
Ah, its Saturday eve and going out with some friends for din, din. Yup. I still see the differences, but we’re all a works in progress.
Harris Glasser – Author, Lecturer, Business & Personal Consultant
www.HarrisHelps.org “ It’s My Money & I Want It!”
(more next week)