After joining a gym, the next step is laying out our ‘Workout’. We know what areas of our body we are interested in developing. The muscle groups necessary to develop for those areas and the different pieces of equipment that will be needed. We then set up our routines that will get us to our desired goals.
Now – The muscles of Happiness, Love, Peace, Contentment, are actually inner muscles. So what kind of equipment do we have to use to build up those muscles?
As I said in my blog last week, “It’s a funny thing, but the exercise pieces of equipment are right in front of our noses and we don’t see it. Once you see it though, the exercises will be totally obvious” and by the way – you have no choice about the equipment or the exercise needed – they just come right at you..
Those pieces of equipment are the people and situations we interact with every single moment of our day. Guess what?
That ‘obnoxious’ person, or that ‘impatient’ person, or total ‘butthead’ we have to deal with, or ‘oh no, it’s not so and so calling again’, and on and on – YUP! Each and everyone and everything you encounter in each day of your life, is the opportunity to exercise those inner muscles. This is your gym of exercise equipment for those inner muscles.
When you walk into your physical gym, you eye the equipment and go right to the ones you need to start your workout on. Unless you aren’t really serious about working out, there is no procrastination – BOOM – right to work. This is the attitude if you’re going to make gains, and no different for the inner muscles.
We each know very well what our buttons are and who the button pushers are (the gym equipment). Just like in the gym though, you don’t shy away. You see the equipment for what it is, and jump right in and start exercising. You take those button pushers and welcome them, because they are the very thing that will bring you the desired results.
The muscles you will be using and strengthening will be;
Patience, Compassion, Understanding
If you think the other person is a problem person, be thankful that you are not like that and put to work the above listed muscles.
I once read a great teaching that helped me gain insight into resolving so many issues with that ‘other’ person. It was in a little kind of notebook. I think the name was “Notes to Myself: My Struggle to Become a Person”…Hugh Prather. It went something like this: “Here comes John. He is such a pain in the neck to talk to. Vs. Here comes John. Why do I make it such a pain in the neck to talk to him”.
So you MUST understand, never to leave yourself out of the equation. You are just as much responsible for what takes place between you and that other person, as they are.
Harris Glasser – Author, Lecturer, Business & Personal Consultant
www.HarrisHelps.org “ It’s My Money & I Want It!”
(more next week)